As you might be able to tell from
the title, this post is about a few things that have been hot topics for some
time now – homosexuality, marriage, and the combination of the two. As these topics have come up in both
Christian and non-Christian media, I have been disappointed and, at times,
downright ashamed of what I have heard and seen. It is my intent in the paragraphs that follow
to put forth my opinions and what I believe to be right (and wrong), and I hope
that wherever you stand on the issues, you will be willing to read with a mind
open to truth.
Let’s start with the obvious. At this time, people are fighting for the
definition and rights of marriage to be expanded to not only include men and
women marrying but men to men and women to women. Christians have opposed this because they
believe that it is an incursion on their beliefs and will have detrimental
effects on the family and society as a whole.
However, I believe Christians have lost sight of what is really
important with this issue and many others.
Let me show you why.
I am an evangelical Christian, and I
strongly believe that homosexuality is wrong.
However, I am mortified at the way my fellow Christians have and are
treating those who are categorized as homosexuals for a lot of reasons. First of all, because as Christians, we are
no better but by the grace of God, and even with it, we still make stupid
mistakes ALL THE TIME.
There is a big discussion about
whether homosexuality is something you’re born with or something you choose and
what ramifications that has on legality and morality. Well, as a bible-believing Christian, I’m
going to say it’s something you’re born with.
And yep, I still believe it’s wrong.
How is this justified? Because we’re
all born that way. I’m not just talking
about homosexuality. I’m talking about
sin, every sin. We are all born sinners. We may have different facets we are prone
toward, but we all are born with that desire to disobey what God has
commanded. Those of us who have believed
in the saving blood and work of Jesus on the cross now have His righteousness
inside us and His law written on our hearts.
We are free of that nature that we are born with and can see clearly the
difference between right and wrong, but that is for ourselves and the correction
and edification of our brethren, not for tearing down and ridiculing those who
are still trapped by the nature of sin.
How can we look down on other people, people Jesus died to save, and
condemn them for doing what comes naturally?
Not only is it wrong, it is pointless.
We will never convince them, and our condemning efforts only drive a
wedge between us and them.
Why is there such a huge outcry
against homosexuals? Doesn’t God say
that every sin is alike? I believe
homosexuality is wrong, but I also believe that about lying, stealing,
adultery, murder, divorce, and having false idols, among other things. Do we have such a stand against those who
watch too much TV? Or those who tell ‘white
lies’? We’re being inconsistent. And we’re defining people, plain, regular
people, as what they do instead of who they are. We get uncomfortable when we find out someone
is sexually different than us like it’s some kind of disease we can catch. They’re just people from all walks of life
and all different personalities. They’re
no more strange than you and I, and they’re no less deserving of our love and
care. What’s more, as I said earlier,
there is no point in yelling and screaming at sinners to change and see our
perspective because they can’t, not as they are.
People want to change the definition
of marriage, and we as Christians are getting all huffy and stupid about it
when I say it’s already been changed, and it has already affected our families
and society. The biblical definition of
marriage is not “one man and one woman”, it’s “one man and one woman forever”. Seeing as how the divorce rate among
Christians is almost the same as everyone else, I’d say we’ve already redefined
marriage. We have failed to live by the
standard set by our Maker, and we look no better than the world. It’s no wonder non-Christians can’t
understand why this fight is such a big deal to us.
So what do we do? What can we do? We can’t give up the fight, but I think we
need to turn it back to where it needs to be – on the home front. We need to take a stand in the church for
what is right and what works and what is worth it. We need to help those who are struggling and
be willing to get our hands dirty. It’s
always easier to rant than to speak kindly, easier to throw things than to come
alongside. But this is what Christ has
called us to do. And I have a feeling
that if we decided to love unconditionally and selflessly, the world would
notice, and maybe they would begin to understand why this fight is so important
to us. As the saying goes, you catch
more flies with honey. I say stop
fighting over what’s wrong and start showing what’s right.
